Tiny House Myths

There are many critiques of the tiny house movement. Many people believe it is just a hippie fad that will eventually fade away. Even worse, some people believe that the tiny house lifestyle is a scam, and not as efficient as some of us make it seem. Now I am a Sagittarius and love to debate, so I love when people have differing opinions to me. I mean it keeps life exciting. So, I do not mind that people disagree or do not see the same benefits I do for tiny house living. I do however, have a problem with people critiquing the tiny house movement and lifestyle, when they themselves have NEVER lived tiny! This is a problem. Not because they do not agree with the lifestyle, but because anyone doing their due diligence and looking for honest cons of tiny house living, will only come upon these scam scare tactics. That’s right they are scams! 

I will be the first to tell you that tiny house living isn’t perfect. It for sure has its own share of problems that you have to have the mindset for honestly, but few of those problems are addressed in these scam articles. In this article, I wanted to address some of these “problems” I’ve seen and provide a more realistic view of tiny house living, from someone that ACTUALLY lives tiny.

Myth 1: You can’t have everything in a tiny house

tiny house kitchen with farmhouse sink and full sized appliances
My kitchen with Full-sized appliances

I saw this in one of the articles I read. While it is definitely true you will have to downsize, the idea that you have to give up basic human luxuries is just asinine. Some people prefer mini fridges and opt-out of having a full stove and oven, but it is 100% possible to have all the modern amenities of a traditional home just in a small space. For my tiny house, I spared no expenses. I have full or apartment sized appliances, a full bed in my loft (that was once a queen sized bed with extra room) and PLENTY of storage for smaller appliances and gizmos. If designed with your lifestyle in mind, a tiny house can literally be built to cater to YOUR life. Just because you haven’t seen it done in a tiny house previously, doesn’t mean it can’t be done. I had never seen someone with a bookshelf the size of mine, but that didn’t stop me from getting one.

Myth 2: Tiny house living is now only for the rich elite

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So while I haven’t seen this in an article specifically, I have seen this train of thought in MANY facebook groups and on YouTube videos. And honestly, I can totally see why people think that. Now that more affluent people have flocked to the tiny house movement, all the luxury tiny house videos you see, feature houses that cost well over 100K. Even mine is seen as luxurious, and I only paid 75k. BUT and this is a big but, it is still 100% possible to build a tiny house for less than 60k. You DO NOT have to spend 100k + for a good tiny house. You can totally build an affordable tiny house, by buying a shell from a builder, and finishing the interior on your own. With the plethora of YouTube videos and blog sites on building, even without prior experience you can finish the interior of your home. Buying a tiny house secondhand, is also another great way to save money on your tiny house build. If you want to have someone build 100% of your home, then yeah you will have to pay more but that’s just how businesses work. The higher the demand the higher the prices.

Myth 3: You will have no privacy

Okay I’m going to be completley honest, I really don’t understand this problem. Both of my parents are immigrants, so the idea of privacy is completley foreign to me ( I wish I was exaggerating but I really have no concept of it. Especially when it comes to family but I digress). The idea though that you have to give up your privacy though is just ludacris. You can still have privacy in a tiny home, even if you are living with someone else (unless that someone else is a toddler. Just give up on that at this point). You can have a tiny house with two lofts, an outdoor area, and also there are still doors! There are so many solutions to this problem, I still can’t believe people bring it up! One could even just put some headphones in and tell your significant other that you want some peaceful serene time and to just leave you alone. When my ex was living in my home with me, he would go up to the spare loft, sit in his gaming chair, and put on headphones when he needed privacy. He would let me know, and I would leave him alone so that he had that sense of privacy. In the beginning I will admit that it was hard adjusting to such a small space but once we developed a system it was pretty easy.

Myth 4: You can’t have kids and live tiny

black woman holding baby standing in front of house

This one keeps a lot of people from going tiny. They really believe that it is impossible to go tiny with kids, and this just isn’t true. It is not only completely possible, but also super fun and rewarding for both the parents and the kids. Kids do not need much indoor space. In all honesty, they don’t want to be inside. Kids have much more fun outdoors and should spend most of their time outdoors anyways. As long as you get the right size for your family, living tiny with kids would be fine. Don’t try to cram 3 kids and 2 adults into a 20 ft. tiny house. THAT would be difficult. Plan your build or project around space for kids and it will be fine

*FULL DISCLAIMER: This myth is not intended for parents with teenagers. Teenagers + parents + tiny house = a horrible idea that I would NOT recommend. NO ONE will enjoy it. If you want to live tiny and you have teenagers, have them build their own tiny house add ons. Not only will they learn valuable life skills, they will have their OWN space to grow as a person.

These are just a few tiny house ‘problems’ I have seen and will add more about others at a later time! Is there any tiny house concerns you have that you can’t find the answer too? Feel free to comment below or DM me on Instagram.

Live, Laugh, Love

Tiny House Living with a Newborn

Before I had a rambunctious 16-month-old, I had a sweet little newborn. No seriously y’all the universe totally blessed me, I had the BEST newborn ever. She only cried to eat, slept really well, and was a pretty happy baby to be around. Newborn life in a tiny house was very different from newborn life in a traditional home, but I had no experience raising a newborn in a traditional house, so at the time it was all I knew. Unfortunately, I did not live in the tiny house with my daughter for too long. My ex and I broke up when she was just a month old, so I decided to move back home with my family so I wouldn’t be alone (y’all I had NO IDEA how to take care of a baby!); But I still wanted to share my newborn since I see a lot of posts asking about newborn setups.

BE WARNED! I literally had to drag these pictures up from almost two years ago and they are NOT the best! But hey gotta work with what I got.

Postpartum

New pleather couch(looks like it should be in a college dorm room but whatever works!)

I had a vaginal birth, and like many other women, I had stitches afterwards. I could NOT climb the stairs…well I could but it was advised against and I am a stickler for the rules; therefore, for that whole month I slept on the couch with my daughter. When I first brought her home, I had an L shaped, storage couch from Ikea that pulled out into a full bed. Then when she was 3 days old, I switched to a pleather couch that folded down into a full bed because I just could not take the fabric anymore! She’d pee on the couch bed and then it would soak through and then we’d have to soak the area and it was just all around a mess! While it is 100% possible to climb stairs and crouch down in a loft, I personally preferred just sleeping on the main floor. If you are thinking about going tiny and you do not have kids yet, think about a reversed loft style design. That way you can avoid the steps all together or opt for a main floor room.

I had a vaginal birth, and like many other women, I had stitches afterwards. I could NOT climb the stairs…well I could but it was advised against and I am a stickler for the rules; therefore, for that whole month I slept on the couch with my daughter. When I first brought her home, I had an L shaped, storage couch from Ikea that pulled out into a full bed. Then when she was 3 days old, I switched to a pleather couch that folded down into a full bed because I just could not take the fabric anymore! She’d pee on the couch bed and then it would soak through and then we’d have to soak the area and it was just all around a mess! While it is 100% possible to climb stairs and crouch down in a loft, I personally preferred just sleeping on the main floor. If you are thinking about going tiny and you do not have kids yet, think about a reversed loft style design. That way you can avoid the steps all together or opt for a main floor room.

Baby Sleeping and Changing Table

Putting up the 3 in 1 pack and play (I was so excited for it and NOT ready for its size)

Personally, I am a huge advocate for co-sleeping with baby, but PROPER and SAFE co-sleeping with baby, so I had no need for a crib. I did however want a place for her to nap when I wasn’t sleeping (I adhered to the age-old adage sleep when the baby is sleeping for a while). So after doing research on what was safest for babies to sleep in outside of a crib, I settled on a 3 in one pack and play! On one side was a changing table which actually came in handy, the other side was a small sleeping area where she napped, and underneath those two was the larger pack and play she could lay and sit up in! Luckily for me I was gifted the pack and play, unluckily for me I did not realize how large it would be. It encompassed half the living room, but I mean honestly, I wasn’t having many guests over. Plus, IF I did have guest, it folded up very nicely and tucked away! In fact, I still have it now, folded up and stored in the storage loft.

Newborn bed side (happy, sleeping baby)
Changing table side (she clearly loves it)

Shower Time/ Cleaning

Even though in the beginning there was two of us, my ex would go to work, and I stayed home with the baby. One piece of advice I got that I took seriously, was take a shower EVERYDAY no matter what. I would constantly forget to eat, drink water or even use the bathroom! But I made sure to stick to that piece of advice in my head. As a result, I ended up using a big Boppy on the floor, outside the shower, for shower time. Now I don’t know how safe this practice is, but this really worked for me. She’0d wake up and love the steam and I’d get a couple minutes to myself every day. As she got older, I switched that out for a baby bouncer, and it worked just the same!

Now even though my baby was pretty good, she was still a newborn in the 4th trimester, so she pretty much just wanted to be hugged and loved on ALL DAY. Like I’m not kidding y’all she did not care what I was doing, so long as she could feel me. So, I HIGHLY and I mean HIGHLY recommend investing in a baby carrier or baby wrap of some sort. I am telling you that thing was a lifesaver! It was the only way I could get ANY cleaning done. I mean I was seeping, mopping, and washing dishes with a sleeping baby on my chest. I had the baby Katan because I wanted more of a wrap carrier feeling without having to learn to do all that wrapping stuff. My ex had the baby Bjorn because, well he thought it looked cooler.

Baby in Boppy while mommy showers

Baby Storage

I decided to cloth diaper and I knew I needed space for them all. So I stored the diapers her size in our closet and stored the rest in a suitcase (I didn’t realize how many diapers I bought in the beginning!). I also made it a point to tell everyone that I lived in a tiny house, which means limited storage, so PLEASE don’t go overboard on the clothes buying. I was so happy when people actually heeded my advice, so all of her clothes was able to fit in this mini storage container I picked up at Walmart. I made sure to put them on the top half, so that I wouldn’t have to bend to take her clothes out (which in the beginning was seriously amazing y’all. No one properly prepares you for that postpartum life I’ll tell ya!)

Diaper and clothes storage (probably the only time it was this clean)

Diapers

Hanging the diapers to dry #freedryer

So one of the challenges I was facing after I found out I was pregnant, was diaper storage. I couldn’t imagine having to constantly buy and store disposable diapers which is how I ended up looking for diaper alternatives. I was also beginning my minimal waste journey and did not like the idea of disposables. So I discovered cloth diapers and I’ve been smitten with them ever since! I have a washer/dryer combo in my tiny house, so washing was not an issue. I chose to air dry my diapers at first because that is what is recommended to promote the longevity of the diaper’s life (now I just use it out of necessity since my dryer has decided it no longer wants to dry). Cloth diapers has seriously saved me so much money, and I don’t have to worry about where to store piles and piles of diapers.

It’s all fun I promise!

Me and tiny Lini

Living tiny with a newborn is definitely different than traditional living with a newborn. I did not get to make up a nursery, and I had to be REALLY selective on what toys and gadgets I could accept for her; but, it was still 100% doable, and in my opinion, easier because you are never too far from your baby. If by some weird cosmic phenomenon, I was transported back to when she was a month old, I probably would’ve opted to stay living in my tiny house over moving back in with my dad. I loved the help and welcomed it greatly, but the house was just TOO big. I found myself filing the space again with unnecessary baby gadgets that I then had to get rid of when I moved back in a few months later. They key to living tiny with a newborn, well pretty much the key to living tiny at all, is to be conscience of what you ACTUALLY need versus what people TELL you you need. Living tiny with a newborn does not have to be stressful, scary thing. It can be fun, adventurous and wonderful!

Living, Laughing, Loving Life

Tiny house living with kids

It’s NOT a normal life. Living in a house under 300 sq. ft. with an adventurous toddler and a derpy dog. But its MY life, my dream life! When I designed my tiny house, I figured I’d have at least 5 years in it before having to share it with another person and kids! But life has a way of changing ALL my plans and after living in the tiny house for a year, I brought home my beautiful baby girl. Now, since my relationship failed, I only lived with her in the house for a month before I packed up all my belongings and moved us back into my childhood home. So I have no experience with the infant stage and tiny house living. We moved back in when she was about 10 months and have been here making it work ever since!

Is it challenging sometimes? Of course it is! She can reach everything and frequently cleans out my cabinets so she can sit in them. She likes to throw her toys in the washer/dryer combo and pull candles and whatnots off the bookshelf. The whole house is her playroom, and NOTHING is off limits as a toy. Does this sound familiar? It should! Living tiny with a kid is no different then living in a 2,000 sq. ft. house with one! People who don’t live this lifestyle SWEAR it’s different or that I’m depriving my daughter somehow. I promise we’re all good here! Living tiny with kids just means that we get to spend more time outdoors than indoors (though with this FL heat its hard to stay out there too long). It just means my house isn’t overloaded with millions of useless toys when all she really wants to do is bang our pots together. It just means I don’t have to slave away at a full-time job, taking away valuable time from my daughter because I’m spending thousands of dollars on a massive house everyone else tells me I should have. If living tiny appeals to you than go for it! Is it all peaches and roses all the time? Of course not, and it’s a massive lifestyle change from a “normal” sized house. But it’s 100% doable, 100% crazy and 100% worth it! Don’t let people who have never lived this life give YOU advice on whether or not you should! You wouldn’t ask people for parenting advice if they’ve never had a child, don’t take tiny house advice from people who haven’t lived in a tiny house.

Sending you all the love and tiny living vibes Xoxo,

Life: Hi! It’s ME

African American mother smiling at mixed daughter

Hello Beautiful reader! Welcome to my life.

You now have a front row seat to my life and the innerworkings of my mind! A little about myself, I am a 24-year-old single mom to two beautiful babies (one human and one fur baby). My human baby is 15 months old (and she knows she’s the boss) and my fur baby is 3! They mostly get along great but as all sisters do they frequently fight over snacks. I am getting my Master’s degree in Anthropology and no matter how smart I think I am this whole life thing still confuses the crap out of me! Hence the blog:

So why am I doing this you ask? I live a life not many other people can relate too. I mean how many African American Single moms do you see living in tiny houses on wheels?? Exactly! I love my life and all things tiny and would be honored to share my story with the world. I want to show that tiny house living is literally for everyone! 

Thank you so much for visiting my space and I hope you find something along the way you can relate too. We’re all mad here! (Fun fact I am in LOVE with everything Alice in Wonderland y’all E.V.E.R.Y.T.H.I.N.G.)